Time to talk about bondage! Wow! Because although we all know roughly what is used (handcuffs, leather, whips …), it is not always so clear what it is!

Let us first clarify its literal meaning. The word bondage means bondage or servitude. Don’t worry, he’s not going to work, unless that puts you at a hundred!

Bondage: what is it and what does it consist of

Bondage is part of BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism . They are all related, but they don’t have to happen at the same time. 

It is a sexual practice that consists of immobilizing the body of one of the people. One is immobilized, the other gives you pleasure.

As for the ways of giving pleasure, they are very wide, according to the taste of each one. And they range from mild to painful , from tickling to spanking.

Although you identify a lot with pain, it is not essential. Bondage must be adapted to each person . The practice itself is being tied down while giving you pleasure.

Why are there people who enjoy pain ? Easy: the hormone of happiness or dopamine is released when we feel pleasure and when we feel pain. 

Test it! Maybe you love being spanked and you getting loving bear kisses! With or without pain, bondage can be a very pleasant practice. Can we tell you how to get started?

4 bondage tips  for beginners

Set limits

Yes I know it may sound boring to start a sexual practice limiting.

But to avoid future conflicts , it is best to start here. Pay attention to us!

Make it very clear what you want to practice, so there are no doubts .

Normally, it is done with someone you trust , especially when starting out, since it is important to only practice what is consented to by both people.

Something essential is to have a safe word, to be able to stop the game immediately. It should be a term that has nothing to do with the situation, such as “pachacho”.

You also have to take into account certain rules.

In bondage, no knots are tied in the neck , nor is a person immobilized alone.

The person who is tied should also be kept hydrated .

The idea at all times is to enjoy yourself, do not take unnecessary risks .

At the beginning, it is important to control the time.

A short session will be more pleasant than one that can become tiring. You will be increasing the minutes little by little!

Experiment without shame

This is where the rest of the BDSM practices come into play , within the limits you have established.

Don’t feel ridiculous, bondage is for experimenting without prejudice . Didn’t you throw them away? Do not recycle them, they are useless!

You may want to be dominant or dominated, or you may find that you take pleasure in giving or receiving pain . In any case, the most sensible thing is to try little by little. This way you will know your limits.

There are people who like to cancel other senses such as hearing with plugs or sight with a bondage mask . This sharpens the sense of touch, and you feel even more pleasure.

Get started with simple add-ons

Don’t let the accessories issue overwhelm you! They are not necessary , with a simple handkerchief you can immobilize a person or cover their eyes. And enjoy girl!

But it is true that they give a lot of play and make the practice very sexy. Our recommendation is that at the beginning you start with the basics , to get used to it. 

Some handcuffs, a mask or a choker necklace that gives that sensual touch . And later if you want to keep trying: whips, harnesses, leashes …  

At Love and Lovers we want you to live your sexuality without taboos . Check out our collection of accessories for bondage and BDSM and let your imagination run wild!  

Have all your bondage gadgets handy right from the start

Being cautious and organized will make your practice safer and more enjoyable . If you use ropes, have a pair of scissors nearby in case they are needed in a moment of stress.

As if you use handcuffs, keep the spare set of keys in a safe and close place . Have water nearby to hydrate if you need and the clock to measure time.

So that the sensuality is not lost, have condoms  and  sexual lubricants close by . So you will not have to look for them, waste time and lose focus.

To start practicing bondage it is very good to keep these tips in mind. Especially the part that is related to security and consent .

Avoid paralysis by analysis and start small! Little time, few accessories, little pain … Little tight knots! And I really want to!

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